Let Me Count The Ways

“Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, ‘What! You too? I thought I was the only one.’” -CS Lewis

Some people live by the saying ‘Opposites Attract.’ Bryan and I hardly fit that stereotype.

& We’re both INTJ’s (click here if you don’t know what that means)**

& We’re both adamant about being on time for Carolina games — basketball or football; on campus or on television.

& We staunchly oppose any game day attire that is not Carolina blue.

& We love the First Amendment.

& We are Religious Studies majors — which reminds me … that one time, in Israel …

& We are deliberate in considering any/all plans before acting on them.

& We run and hike.

& We eat adventurously (see: Israel, Chop’t and various DC restaurants…).

& We love reading. And writing.

& We read with prejudice (see anecdote in which Shannon tricked Bryan into reading Pride and Prejudice and Shannon was forced to finish the Harry Potter series).

& We love CS Lewis. Namely, Mere Christianity.

& We curate books like they’re helpless children. But, really (see our bookshelves).

& Mexican food is the best.

& We prefer dogs to cats. Hands-down. Every day. Any day (see, Madie).

& We love the letters of Paul. Namely, Romans, Galatians, Philippians and…okay, well all of them.

& Pink Lady Apples and Mangoes are our fruits of choice.

& We are loyal to a fault — to each other, to friends, to family. This can cause problems — or “social stress,” but I can’t imagine it any other way.

& We live for Chop’t.

It seems like every day we find a new topic on which we agree,”that’s exactly how I feel.”

This is of course, not to say that we don’t agree on some things (*cough* Fantasy Football, Firehouse subs, early mornings and coffee drinks). But I can confidently say Bryan is my best friend.

And that is really, really, really wonderful.

note: I make no apologies for this unusually sappy blogpost. That is all.

**INTJ’s, according to Wikipedia: “In forming relationships, INTJs tend to seek out others with similar character traits and ideologies. Agreement on theoretical concepts is an important aspect of their relationships. By nature INTJs can be demanding in their expectations, and approach relationships in a rational manner. As a result, INTJs may not always respond to a spontaneous infatuation but wait for a mate who better fits their set criteria. They tend to be stable, reliable, and dedicated. Harmony in relationships and home life tends to be extremely important to them. They generally withhold strong emotion and do not like to waste time with what they consider irrational social rituals. This may cause non-INTJs to perceive them as distant and reserved; nevertheless, INTJs are usually very loyal partners who are prepared to commit substantial energy and time into a relationship to make it work.


5 thoughts on “Let Me Count The Ways

  1. At first glance I thought the title of this post was quoting a sonnet by Shakespeare that I had to recite in class in the 8th grade, but I upon Googling it, I discovered it was actually from a sonnet by Elizabeth Barrett Browning… I was thinking of the one about comparing thee to a summer’s day.

    Anyways, I do not know what prompted such praise, but I am grateful that you took the time to write all of this down and track down these pictures! Thank you. And of course, I wholeheartedly agree with your conclusion.

    I do not notice any oversights on your list, but I do find it interesting that in a few cases these qualities were either missing or hiding before we became friends: in your case, your devotion to sports and to Carolina (who would have predicted that 11th grade Shannon Spain would later become such a passionate fan of college basketball that her Twitter would become one of MY sources of articles, or that she would watch the Jerod Haase press conference before I did…); in my case, running, and probably eating adventurously (remember that on our first trip to DC, I actually cast a vote against eating at Chopt, but was overruled.. how history would have been different…).

    We are definitely not opposites (I too enjoy our regular epiphanies of agreement, which are so great, of course, because we also share in common that we are both independent-minded and stubborn…), but we are also not identical, and in the ways we are slightly different, we have proven to be perfectly complimentary for our mutual improvement (you, after all, almost went to Dook… :D)

    Great post, one of my favorites. Love you.

    Also, that picture of us at the Mexican restaurant is one of the most ridiculous photos of us ever taken… if I remember correctly that is at Los Tres Magueyes after the Sarah Palin event in Raleigh.

    And the Israel thing… when’s the next adventure?

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