Do not let kindness and truth leave you;
Bind them around your neck,
Write them on the tablet of your heart.
– Proverbs 3:3 (NASB)
People who speak great truths (the Gospel, personal advice, lifestyle criticism) with deep, authentic, full-hearted kindness are rare.
The qualities of truth and kindness seem to be polar opposites – most people have one without the other.
I’ve been pondering this dichotomy in my new friendships. There are those who are concerned with giving warmth and security to stabilize a relationship; and there are those who only allow themselves the honest, naked truth regardless of how it affects others. The “kind people” are known as “pushovers” – the “truth people,” are largely viewed as arrogant and emotionless.
I tend to be the latter. I’m terrible at being gently, kindly, HUMANLY truthful. Showing kindness alone or honesty alone is easier. I’m striving to be both kind and truthful.
I desire friends who are encouragingly kind but candidly authentic. As much as I value the truth, I value my RELATIONSHIPS more; Relationships are delicate and tricky to maintain. Truth? Well, it’s quite hardy. Blunt and vocal as truth is on its own, it hardly needs to be shared without loving kindness and an understanding of human emotion.